Faithful people do not always take their losses gently or silently. Heartaches and sorrows hurt them so much. However, grief is a normal human reaction to loss, terminally ill cases, etc., regardless of religious beliefs when a loved one passes away.
Sometimes, after a loved one dies (or, before), people may feel angry at God and question their faith as they try to understand.
For example, when you’ve suffered a devastating loss, or are dealing with a terminally ill case, and feel completely shattered on the inside, the peace of your faith (or, others faith) may be a tremendous help! However, when your beliefs cannot help you accept your loss, you may experience confusion and a terrible sense of emptiness, sadness, anger, etc.
Here are some ways to regain your faith (however, in no particular order) before or after the death of a loved one:
1. Give Yourself Time To Heal:
Healing is a personal event requiring time to process. All you need to do is to allow yourself to feel the feelings and accept them as part of the grieving process. Allow yourself to know and feel God’s comfort, which is present for you. To get best results, seek God, without any doubt and be patient per your faith.
2. Remember That Others Are Also Hurting:
A death in the family is one of the most challenging life events you can experience. Remember that those close (and not so close) to you are also hurting, but this common denominator can create a common bond of unity wthin the family or even create an amends among people. In other words, thank God because this kind of a difficult situation can also be a blessing in disguise.
3. Talk to Someone:
Find someone you can talk with–privately–to help you through your grief. This could be a family member, friend, or anyone willing to listen to you and be emotionally supportive. It might also help to join a support group, in your community, where grieving people share their feelings and experiences. Therefore, you know you’re not alone. Overall, in relation to the aforesaid, you can participate in professional counseling services to regain your faith for healing.
4. Try to Understand:
Try to legitimately understand the reasons behind your loss (or, potential loss) by finding out what happened (or, will happen). Create your healing process per your understanding. This will help you accept the reality of your loss and eventually encourage you to move forward with your life. God is with you.
5. Be Open and Pay Attention:
Remember, by the grace and mercy of God, your deceased loved one may appear in a dream or vision. Many people–who are patients of Divine Life Therapy, The Home of Gnostic Pneumatherapy–have had this type of experience after the loss of a loved one. However, this type of experience can even happen when the loved one is on their death-bed or many times after the loss. So, be open and pay attention for these possibilities.
If you feel like talking to God, pray! It’s okay to call out for help and ask for strength. It may not always be an easy task, but it can give you the reassurance you need in your natural healing process.
7. Remember the Good Times:
Remember all of the prior good times you shared with your deceased loved one. This can also help you think of how they taught you, what they gave to you, or how they influenced your life–because they came from the goodness of God. Therefore, how you will now move forward as a blessing in your own life, and others, is necessary.
8. Honor Your Journey:
Overall, grief can feel like a journey from brokenness to healing. The best method for overcoming grief is to face it. But, how? Well, remember, if the happenings of this world or life were truly perfect, then why would we need God? Apparently, perfection is not true in this world or life due to the death of your loved one. Therefore, in this difficult situation, no wonder why there is a need for God; have faith. You need it!
Everyone’s path is different on their journey to recovery. Your route to recovery may diverge considerably from that of others who are also suffering–before or after a loss. But, God is present for everyone; yes, including you!
Due to feelings of love, it’s okay for you and other family members to grieve when you think of your deceased loved one. But the best thing you can do is move forward (since that’s what the deceased loved one would want you to do) but also accepting that they are no longer with you. In paradox, you need to also realize that because of your need, God’s grace and mercy exists, and therefore, in secret, your deceased loved one is still with you. Just be open and pay attention to these possibilities; meaning, stay focused by using your faith!
To learn more about “how to” do this type of healing, Divine Life Therapy provides the best therapist(s) to talk to. With God’s help, each therapist will be there for you in your time of need for the purpose of making your recovery better.